Sunday, 12 April 2015

15 Things I’d Like To Tell My Younger Self

15 things I'd like to tell my younger self
I like to live with no regrets but I was reflecting on my younger years and this post was born. Here are 15 things I'd like to tell my younger self. I probably would ignore them, but still...


Your weight isn’t the be all and end all 
Stop worrying about that figure on the scales. Stop the ridiculous exercise regimes and diets and actually enjoy food rather than seeing it as the enemy. You’re surrounded by gorgeous countryside so so what if you had another kit kat? Go for a run to banish that guilt. Your friends and family will love you no matter your size. You still have boyfriends and date guys so really it’s all in your head.


Don’t colour your hair
You really want to look like Gretchen from Mean Girls? Well good luck with that because now you’ll spend the rest of your life covering up your secret hair shade. This is one to listen to your mum about. Your natural hair colour is just fine. 


Don’t follow trends just because they’re cool    
Peer pressure is a bitch. Luckily you didn’t fall into starting smoking and skiving P.E to have a crafty cig - so well done for that. But as for the rest, don’t be a sheep. Rockports, pink Timberlands and head to toe Bench and Hooch - that’s not the real you and you know it.


Not everyone you lose is a loss
It may hurt at the time but you’ll come to realise that not everyone you lose in your life is a loss. Some things aren’t meant to last for long. They arrive to teach you lessons, and then continue on. Not everyone will stay with you on your journey. Some will. Some will be with you to the very end. Some will be there for only a chapter - and that’s okay. People are one of two things - they’re either a blessing or a lesson and do you know what, as funny as it sounds, the lessons can be more worthwhile to you as they’ll shape you as a person. Don’t let that make you bitter though which leads me onto my next one...


What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
This will seem impossible at the time. All those times you cried or felt your heart breaking - you’ll survive, because you have no other choice - that’s life. And you’ll come out a hell of a lot stronger. You live and you learn. 


Happiness is a choice, which at times, requires effort
You’ll go through some really dark times and struggle to find the light, but you must. You’ll feel it’s easier to be sad than to be happy but in ten years time you’ll feel completely the opposite. You’ll cherish every day, every hour, hell, every moment - so why not do this sooner? It’s easier said than done, I know, but once your outlook on life changes, your life will never be the same again.


Appreciate the people you have around you
Do you know how lucky you are to be loved by the people around you that do? Because I don’t think you do. You’ve got people who would do anything for you, love you, make you laugh until you cry and have your back no matter what. Appreciate them. Tell them you love them. Because unfortunately whether it’s a fall out, break up or death - you’ll lose the people you love and you’ll regret not showing them what they meant to you years from now. 


Stop whining about having to go to piano lessons
It’s an hour a week and you’ll end up bloody loving it and music will change your life. You’ll be pretty damn good too. So stop giving your parents grief about it. It’s a skill and it’s a way to express yourself. You’ll end up renting a city centre flat that has no piano - so play Fur Elise and Phantom Of The Opera until your fingers bleed because you’ll miss those piano keys more than you’ll know.


Being independent and sassy is great but needing people is okay too
Yes you love your alone time and blocking out the world from time to time but deep down you need people too, and that’s okay. It’s not a weakness and you’ll end up with some of the kindest and most genuine people around you if you let them in. I know it’s scary when you’ve spent your life building walls but every now and then that special someone comes along and you’ll let them tear those walls down. You’ll also change other people’s viewpoint on this too, and they’ll tell you you were right and that’ll make you feel pretty damn good. 


Battle with your mother earlier about growing your hair
Most of the time your mum will be right, but on this, no. You’ll end having long hair and bloody loving it. So work on her, but maybe take a different angle rather than the usual “OH MY GOD THIS IS SO UNFAIR, MY LIFE IS OVER” routine, because no-one likes a bratty teenager. 


Don’t give up ballroom dancing
Because again, you’re actually pretty damn good at it and ten years later you’ll only remember the cha cha cha, the jive and the complete routine to Michael Jackson’s ‘The Way You Make Me Feel’ and Mucho Mambo’s ‘Sway.’ Keep at it. Not only is it fun, it’ll keep you fit and eventually you may meet a guy in class just like off Step Up 2. I can’t promise that but it’s worth a shot right?!


Follow your instinct 
There’ll be times in your life where you need to use your head, and there’ll be times when you need to use your heart to make a decision. Most of the time go with your gut - it’s there for a reason. Blair Waldorf (you won’t know who she is - but trust me you’ll be wanting to dress like her in five years) said that “Destiny is for losers - it’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen." Whilst you love the whimsical and romantic side of fate, take control of your life too. Do what makes you happy. Because in the end as long as you tried and you cared, that’s enough. 


Guys are a minefield
This will never change, so get used to it. From crushes to boyfriends and everything in between you’ll never fully understand them, so accept that and keep calm and carry on. 


Don’t be a cringe on social media
Constant Facebook updates about yet another lecture and drunken tweets to name a few. Step away from social media and stop being a cringe, because ten years from now I’ll get time hops reminding me how embarrassing I used to be. Oh, wait, that’s happening now… 


Above all, be kind
Not everyone operates in the way you do. Not everyone is as sensitive or reacts like you do - everyone is different so take that into account. Give people the benefit of the doubt, try to help them and just be kind. Everyone is fighting a battle - some you may not even be aware of. 



And finally (I know this is technically cheating as I said this is ’15 things…’ but 16 things doesn’t have the same ring to it…) - Accept what you can’t change - change what you can’t accept
Your train’s late again - so what? You physically can’t make it come any quicker so don’t be a drama queen. Don’t want to lose someone in your life? Don’t let it happen - believe me it works in some instances. This phrase will change your life and give you an inner peace. So start telling it yourself sooner.





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