Hashtags are everywhere these days. We're more social than ever, and that for me is a blessing and a curse. I love social media, it connects me with all of my loved ones in a way that I just couldn't fit in on a face to face basis. But with that comes a gloss on our lives, a sugarcoat if you will.
I'm guilty of using #LIFEGOALS ironically, but for me, the only goals you should realistically have and work towards, are your own. Sure it's good to be inspired by people, to be motivated by what they've achieved but to actively wish for their lives? That's something I'm not so sure about. Why? Because unless you know that person, you don't actually know what their lives are like.
Take a look at Britney Spears. Growing up, I wanted to be her. She had the voice, the fans, the likeability, the looks, the figure, the talent, the success - you name it - she had it. Yet when Brit famously broke down back in 2007 and shaved her head, it showed just how vulnerable and like us she is. I'm not saying every case of #LIFEGOALS is a Britney Spears case, but the pressure to portray a life that quite frankly doesn't exist is pretty tiring.
My Instagram isn't an accurate respresentation of my life. It's a small part. I used to put all of my life on there but a while back I decided to keep those moments private, and now it's an extension of this site. I don't post the bad things happening in my life or the morning after the night before photos following a messy night out. So I guess I'm responsible for my own rant really. But it's because I'm guilty of doing it, I know when looking at other people I follow, whether that's friends, family, celebs or bloggers, to take everything with a pinch of salt.
And that's what I tell anyone who compliments me on "how great a life I have." Don't get me wrong, I definitely do. I'm very blessed and don't take any part of my life for granted but is my life perfect? Hell no. I cry, I get ill, bad things happen to myself and my loved ones, I make mistakes, I regret certain things but I choose to not let those things define my life. You can't change what happens to you. Sadly that's life, fate or whatever you wanna call it. And I completely believe in accepting the path you've been given - destiny is a pushy little fellow. But what you can do is choose how you react to it. Don't let it get you down. Don't let other's supposedly perfect lives get you down, because chances are their lives aren't perfect either. We're all human. Some of us are open with their problems and feel okay to share them on social media. Others will keep their issues to themselves but that doesn't mean they don't exist.
What you see isn't what you get. The grass is always greener. We all know these famous overused sayings but they're true. Your #LIFEGOALS should be meaningful to you. Don't get a flashy Mercedes S-Class convertible because that's what [insert famous person here] has. Do you actually want it? Or is it just for show? A nice car doesn't make you any better, or having a perfectly taken brunch shot mean your life is perfect and everything is a-okay.
"Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside"