Life’s a funny little thing. You never know what’s going to happen or where you’re going to end up. But that’s also the beauty of it. People always ask you what your life plan is. Heck you’ll ask yourself that too. And whilst a certain amount of planning is essential, you can’t control every aspect of your life. Just like you can’t control society. What you can control is your viewpoint, and what pressures you allow yourself to feel.
Just the other day someone confided in me they were scared of ending up alone. I quickly responded that this was ludicrous and wouldn’t happen and asked what made her feel this way. And she said society and social media. You hear it all of the time. I’m XX age and I’m not married. I don’t have my own house. I don’t have kids. I don’t have a high salary job. I haven’t seen much of the world. To who’s standards?
I’m not immune to this. I had it all planned out. I’d graduate from uni and meet the love of my life whilst living in London in a beautiful apartment in a high flying magazine job and get married at 25 and have my first kid by 27. It’s not happened. Oh well. Has my life been crap? God no. It’s been the most fabulous life. By letting go of my ‘plan’ - I’ve travelled parts of the world, achieved some great things in my career, tripled the size of my friend network, worked hard at this site and have memories I’ll never forget.
So what if Amy’s married and you’re not. Or if Jane’s got the latest Mercedes. Your five year relationship may have ended and you’re starting again, but everything happens for a reason. You’re still here. You’re still alive on this beautiful planet and it simply means your plan needs updating. The job you thought you’d be in for the long run has actually run its course and you want to leave? Maybe you want to move to a different part of the country or even the world but it’s not in your ‘plan.’ Go with your gut. Your head plans, but your heart knows what it wants. You only get one life. Live it.
Don’t live your life by society’s timeline. Life it by what you want. Go with the flow. Let fate run its course. At the end of the day, time flies when you’re having fun, and that’s the only timeline you should be aligned with.