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Tuesday, 30 May 2017

"Like, Realising Stuff"

Untitled When I was 8 years old I wanted to marry this boy in my village. When I was 12, I wanted to be a backing dancer for Britney Spears. And when I went off to university I wanted to land a high flying magazine job in London the minute I got that degree.

I didn't marry the boy, and I unlike the millions of girls out there, don't really want to get married full stop. Britney Spears never came knocking on my door to audition and I've been working in Manchester for 5 years. I can tell I really banged on about the London dream, as to this day my friends and family question when I'm going to go get it.

Through the make ups and the break ups and the good and bad times life throws at us, what I have learnt to long for is less. Don't get me wrong, if Jo Elvin were to offer me my dream job tomorrow, I'd snatch her hand off, but you get to a certain point in your life when you're content, when you've found that balance and that you couldn't imagine looking elsewhere or longing for anything else.

The older I get, the more I feel life is flying by. Some friends I only see twice a year through busy schedules, work, families and partners but that's also the beauty of life, being able to pick up where you left off but always being there, if not physically but mentally. Whilst I love my life, at the start of this year I reevaluated where I was placing my time. My working day is long, my blog was ticking over nicely, social media scheduled and my social calendar bursting. Yet my relationships dwindled and as soppy as it sounds, what's your life if you're not sharing it with someone or interacting with others? I love blogging and social media but I love my real life more - which sounds ridiculous and this isn't me waving goodbye to the way of life I've known for 5 years but just me, as this post and the internet phrase goes: "like realising stuff."

They say you make time for the people you want in your life and I'm sure exactly who 'they' are but they're right.

You can never get time back so make the most of it. Spend it the right way with just how you want to spend it. My close friend repeatedly hinted at me that I'm always "so busy" and that "we never see you." I think that also made me, like, realise stuff. I won't lie, I'm still pretty bad at texting back but some things don't change.

Some of the best times of your life will be doing the most mundane things. Like lying in bed the morning after laughing at the memories you made last night or just walking in silence with someone you're comfortable doing that with.

Cut out the material, the want for more, the bad people that you no longer need that perhaps are weighing you down or any situation that adds a cloud to your life.

A friend of mine came up to me the other day afraid to text this guy she liked because she was told to "never double text." Life's too short for sh** like that. Send a million texts, well not quite, otherwise you WILL run out of time but you get where I'm going with this. Don't waste time playing it cool or even if your job if it doesn't make you excited anymore, don't waste time staying. Don't do what others do or what you've been told you should do. Listen to your gut and always always, follow your heart instead of your head. Mistakes shape us, lessons make us wiser and you'll realise stuff. You only get one life and you owe it to yourself to live it to the fullest. If you're not laughing out loud everyday - change something. Anyone who makes me laugh is in my circle of trust immediately.

Do things that scare you, push yourself, love, laugh and live every moment. Never stop growing and declutter your life of anything that hinders your path. Choose quality over quantity and go out and make memories. So if you see my posts dropping, that's why. I never want to put a post on here I'm not proud or happy with and right now, my mind's in other places. I'm fixing my offline life for a bit and I'm realising stuff.

Monday, 15 May 2017

Why It's Not All About 'The One'

Untitled When Britney Spears took part in James Corden’s carpool karaoke a few months ago, something struck me. She mentioned how she didn’t believe in happy ever after or marriage. It’s a sad statement but also one in this day and age, away from the Disney fantasy of meeting your prince, that’s relatable.

When I was growing up, my first memory of what I thought love was when I was around 7 or 8. I’d weirdly got my parents to buy me a kids wedding dress complete with veil because I wanted to marry a boy in my village. It didn’t happen. Heartbreaking. But since then and up until present day, I’ve fallen for a handful of people. Some could see it as sad that none of those were ‘the one’ but I don’t. I feel so blinking lucky to have felt something for so many people. It’s a rush, it’s exciting, it’s fun and your heart grows by each and every experience. Forget shoulda woulda couldas, if it was meant to work out, it would have done, or you would have fought harder to keep it.

Society builds up 'the one' to a pedestal level. Tie that in with #boydidgood and so many uses of the word ‘bae’ and it can send you under. Be with ‘bae’ for the right reasons, like he remembers just how you like your tea or leaves cute notes on your pillow. Not because you’re so set on finding the one, you’re not complete without it.

It’s the same concept as your ‘best day ever.’ Hopefully by a certain age, you won’t have just the one. I know I don’t. I could go on and on and on about the best days of my life so far. And I hope they never stop. I hope I’ll never get to a point where it is just one day, but a catalogue of magical 24 hours. As for love, don’t limit yourself to ‘the one’ or the idea of it. If you’ve found it, great. If you’re looking for it, great. But not everyone is meant to be with one person for the rest of their life, and the option of that is okay too.

And whilst you’re in between romantic relations, all of the break ups and make ups, remember love isn’t just found in your other half. It’s in the 5am sunrises, the banter at work and cooking your favourite brunch at the weekend. It’s the stories you’ll have ‘to tell the kids’, dancing ’til dawn with your best friends and travelling this beautiful earth. And most importantly, it’s in loving yourself, your own company and falling in love again because you’re ready, and not because you’re lonely.

Sunday, 14 May 2017

15 Life Quotes To Remember

Untitled I used to be known as a walking quote book, and whilst I've calmed down my words of wisdom updates, they're more than just a pin on Pinterest. Here's 15 to help you through the day to day grind, and get you feeling less 'meh' and more 'hell yeah!'

1. "No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent"

- Eleanor Roosevelt

2. "Home is not where you live but where they understand you"

- Christian Morgenstern

3. "To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people just exist"

- Oscar Wilde

4. "Don't settle: Don't finish crappy books. If you don't like the menu, leave the restaurant. If you're not on the right path, get off it"

- Chris Brogan

5. "For what it's worth: It's never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over"

- F. Scott Fitzgerald

6. "It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things"

- Leonardo Da Vinci

6. "There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in"

- Leonard Cohen

7. "If we wait until we're ready, we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives"

- Lemony Snicket

8. "I can't tell you the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everyone"

- Ed Sheeran

9. "The most wasted of all days is one without laughter"

- E.E Cummings

10. "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough"

- Oprah Winfrey

11. "Until you get comfortable with being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness"

- Mandy Hale

12. "I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity"

- Gilda Radner

13. "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned"

- Buddha

14. "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts"

- Marcus Aurelius

9. "Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn't be one of them"

Monday, 1 May 2017

Review | The English Lounge

Untitled Untitled Manchester is full of the quirkiest places around, from cool NQ bars to slick Spinningfield vibes, yet every now and then it’s nice to go back to basics, and for me being a country girl, get the feel of an old school pub. Because I never normally stray away from my usual haunts, I didn’t know much about The English Lounge, which for those also not in the know is on the High Street just opposite the Arndale.

The place has had a recent refurb and whilst it’s been updated, it hasn’t lost its character and charm. You’ve got a sweeping wooden bar, all the beers you could crave, cute quotes and plush leather seating. We opted for a seat by the window, and when I say ‘we’, I mean me because the blogger in me took over and we all know natural light is a blogger’s best friend.

You’ve got a few choices when it comes to menus - their set lunch is ridiculously affordable and offers a whole lotta choices. We decided to go for the full menu because anywhere with Baked Camembert as a starter is a win in our eyes. It was a little smaller than what I’m used to so definitely don’t share with a friend or maybe that’s just me being greedy? Scott I blame you for getting me into this dish. The camembert itself was delicious and not overly flavoursome for those not completely into their cheeses.

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As for the main event, I did spend a good ten minutes changing my mind between four or five options, which is always a sign of a good menu. In the end we went for the Peri Peri Chicken which comes with chunky chips and a salad garnish and the Triple Cheese Burger. And yes I sampled both, not all to myself obviously - but I’m one of those people who’ll make a decision in a restaurant and always want what someone else has when it comes to being served.

The chicken as expected was spiced and a perfect portion for lunch - I did struggle with the chips because my child-sized stomach likes to strike every now and then but they were light and fluffy in texture and a whole lotta filling. The burger was huge, and that’s no exaggeration and you can mix and match if you wanna have it with skinny fries or sweet potato. If you’re into your cheeses, definitely go for this - I couldn’t take my eyes of it melting down the burger when it arrived.

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We did um and ah about dessert being so full at this point, but we don’t like to fall at the last hurdle, so we went for the Salted Caramel Fudge Cake which as you can imagine from its name, was just something else. Any menu without a chocolate cake option is a menu lacking in my eyes so this definitely ticked a box.

If you’re after some old school vibes in a chic environment without a hefty bill - it’s one to check out if you’re in the city.

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