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Tuesday, 7 November 2017

Things I'm Sick Of Hearing...

I knew I was different right from the get go. Sure I watched Disney like most other girls but instead of wanting to marry the prince, I liked Aurora from Sleeping Beauty for her wardrobe choices and because she got to spend a long time in bed. I love my sleep okay?

A few years later I remember declaring to my uncle of my desire to avoid marriage to which he reminds me to this day, as if now I'm of adult age, surely I must be thinking of it. Spoiler: I'm not. I love a wedding more than most, but I have no secret Pinterest board and whilst others were dreaming about the big day from when they were a child, I was dreaming of the life I'd build for myself. What job I'd do, where I'd live and how I'd damn well get there. And as you can tell, all of these objectives stem from me, just me.

Now before you think I'm a bitter, anti-love gal, I am most certainly not. I love love. I love the idea of it, being in it and seeing others feeling it. It's what makes the world go round after all. What I do have a problem with however is when people make you feel like it's the be all and end all. As if love can only be defined by having a partner. That without a spoon on a Sunday and my boy 'doing good' on my birthday, I must lead an empty, emotionless existence. Love is as big or small as you want it to be, and it can come from more than just 'bae.'

It can come from your parents being your best friends, crying with laughter with the girls over something small, or the look your dog gives you when you get back from work. I'll never sit at home waiting for my life to 'get good' because a guy suddenly is in it. I'll be busy leading the life I've designed and bloody love, so that if and when someone comes into my life, it's a bonus and not a necessity. I want to want someone in my life and not depend on them. I want them to be the other half of me because I find them laugh out loud hilarious and they get me, even the weird bits of me and not become half of a person without them around.

Everyone is different of course, and that's what makes us all special and the world not boring quite frankly. Some people prioritise the path of a happy home, family and marriage and I'm not saying I'll be pushing away that dream forever, I'm sure some day I'll want that too. But right now I'm focusing on what makes me happy and that's simply living each day as it comes. No labels, no pressure and no pinning all my life's happiness on someone else being in my life.

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