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Wednesday, 3 January 2018

The Art Of Leaving

Untitled The art of leaving is not always easy. If you Google the definition you get: "to go away from someone or something for a short period of time or permanently." It's soaked with negative connotation, from leaving a party early, leaving your your job or walking out on your partner. It's rare it's ever paired with something sunny. Yet it's a skill that sometimes will save your sanity.

Sometimes that sanity is your own, and sometimes it's others. When the first of my close knit friends left the company we worked for, I was heartbroken. School sets you up on how to list the periodic table and find 'x' in an equation but it never preps you for leaving, whether it's you doing the leaving or someone else. I'd got so used to her being in my life on the daily, that taking that away seemed unthinkable. Since that point, too many others have left and as cold as it sounds, I've gotten used to it. Not because I don't love them, but because it's what makes them happy. Because others leaving isn't about you. Okay, that's a lie, sometimes it is. If your other half wants out or your friendship has grown apart, chances you'll have played a part, but most times it's to go onto something better.

A one of a kind guy I know left to go and live in Oz. I miss his quirks and comments on the daily and whilst a selfish part of me wishes he hadn't left, I see how much he's shining and living life to the fullest. Now getting a like on a photo makes me smile or our drunken messages back and forth across the globe mean so much more.

Leaving can be as little or big as you want it, but the goal of leaving anything or anyone is if it improves your life. Picked up the menu in a restaurant and hate everything on there? Leave. Walked into a bar and you can't stand the music they're playing? - walk right back out. Friends are toxic? Cut them out. Relationship draining you and not growing you? Question it.

Leave any situation that doesn't bring you joy. And it doesn't mean you're being the bad cop, leaving takes courage. Sometimes you leave a place because it's stinting your growth. And sometimes you leave someone because you love them enough to let them go. And that's the best kind of leaving. It can better the people involved and better you to learn from it. Sometimes staying in a situation for the sake of it can damage you far more then ripping that band aid off (or plaster for my UK people out there). Don't settle in anything, I'm not just speaking relationships here. "Ten years from now make sure you can say you chose your life, you didn't settle for it." There's no credit to that quote, but they hit the nail on the head.

Leave to strive for better things, better places and better people. Leave to fulfil your dreams, enrich your soul, to find the person your heart truly beats for and to be in a place where your life is completely content. Or if it's the end of a night, to get a full fat coke and a garlic bread with cheese, because like I said at the start, leaving can be as big or small as you want it to be. And it's not always as negative as it first seems.

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