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Monday, 8 January 2018

What 2017 Taught Me

Untitled 2017 marked ten years since the first episode of Gossip Girl aired and my obsession with Blair Waldorf began. And whilst I no longer rock the headbands and my scalp thanks me for that – her sass lives on. Now don’t quote me on the episode, but during one she summed up my year in two sentences: “Destiny is for losers. It’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen.”

When 2017 drew to a close, I’d say the majority of people around me whether IRL or on the internet, were speaking negatively on it. It’s safe to say 2017 had earned a bad rep. My 2016 was pretty special: I got a promotion which I’d always wanted, my friend had a baby, my sister got engaged and countless other ‘big moments’ happened - enough to cast a shadow on last year.

For me, 2017 was pretty average. No big life moments happened but despite that, it was one of my favourites. In life we put so much pressure on these milestones, achieving this or that by a certain age, and in a social media led generation it can feel as if we’re all competing, even subconsciously. One of the main things I’ve learnt is to switch off. It’s a bit of a running joke amongst my friends about my Insta being  a lil’ soulless and the older I get, the less inclined I am to share every inch of my life online. I’d rather just live it. The days I spend away from my phone are my favourite. Because ‘pics or it didn’t happen’ is all well and good but give me a mental memory over the ‘gram any day.

Last year also brought me a sense of calm and to let things go. It’s over said but you only get one of these life things and for me, cutting out anything or anyone that makes me unhappy has been my fast track to being content. Sometimes being a lil’ bit selfish pays off. Surround yourself with people who want the best for you and bring out the best for you too. The people you can sit around with and do nothing, and it’s still a ball. The ones you don’t have to make an effort with or feel like a burden to be around.

And finally it taught me to go for things B.Waldorf style. I’m a big believer of fate and everything happening for a reason but in reality, you are in control of your life. No-one else. I’ve made new friends, been out too many nights, met some fab people, made some lifelong memories, laughed my head off and most importantly made sure I was ok first and foremost by myself. I’ve reconnected with old relationships and made them stronger and built up new ones too. And with the people I have around me at this very point, the prospect of a New Year of memories with ‘em makes the next 365 days an exciting ride to be on.

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